Relationship tools
For the conversation you keep postponing
A test tells you about a pattern. These are for a specific thing: the argument you had on Tuesday, the expectation neither of you ever said out loud, the apology that keeps coming out as an explanation. 10 of them are working today, and 9 of those cost nothing.
None of these will tell you who was right
That is not a limitation we are apologising for; it is the design. Almost every tool here works by holding two accounts of the same thing next to each other without ranking them, because the useful information is usually in the gap rather than in a verdict. A tool that declared a winner would get used as evidence, and then it would stop being useful to the person who lost.
Where both of you take part, nothing you write is shown to your partner until you have both finished and both agreed to share it. That order is enforced on our servers, not in the page you are looking at, and either of you can stop it at any point.
Understanding each other
Tools for the gap between what you meant and what landed, and for the things that never quite get said.
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Two-Sided Story
You each describe the same moment separately, then read both accounts side by side.
- 10 min
- Both of you
- Account needed
This tool will not decide whose account is accurate. If you are looking for a verdict, it is the wrong tool.
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How Well Do You Know Me?
Answer about yourself, guess about each other, then see where the guesses land.
- 8 min
- Both of you
- Account needed
Guessing wrong is not a failure of love. People change, and nobody is obliged to be legible.
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Emotional Translation
Rewrite something you want to say so it can be heard instead of defended against.
- 6 min
- Just you
- No account
- AI, free
Softer wording does not make an unreasonable request reasonable, and it is not a technique for managing someone.
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Unsaid Things
A private holding place for what you are not ready to say yet.
- 3 min
- Just you
- Account needed
Nothing here is shared automatically, ever. This is not a channel for sending your partner a message indirectly.
Being built
1Love Language Reality Check
Compare how you each like to be shown care with how care is actually being shown.
Listed here so you can see where this is going. They are not clickable because they do not work yet.
Working through conflict
For a specific disagreement: what happened, what each of you heard, and what would actually repair it.
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Argument Decoder
Take one argument apart: the trigger, the thing said, the thing heard.
- 9 min
- Just you
- No account
- AI, free
It decodes the pattern, not the person. It will not tell you who started it.
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AI Conflict Report
A neutral written read on one disagreement, from both accounts.
- 12 min
- Both of you
- Account needed
- AI, paid extra
It does not decide who was right, and it will refuse to. It is also not suitable where there is any question of safety.
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Apology Builder
Build an apology that names the actual harm instead of defending the intention.
- 6 min
- Just you
- No account
- AI, free
A well-worded apology is not owed acceptance, and this tool will not help you apologise for something you have not actually stopped doing.
Being built
3Conflict Replay
Replay a recurring argument and find the point where it always turns.
Repair Challenge
Seven short, concrete repair actions over seven days.
Conflict Style Explorer
See how your way of handling disagreement meets your partner's.
Listed here so you can see where this is going. They are not clickable because they do not work yet.
Expectations and fairness
Most recurring arguments are two reasonable people running on assumptions neither of them stated out loud.
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Hidden Expectations
Surface the assumptions you have each never said out loud.
- 9 min
- Both of you
- Account needed
A mismatch here is information, not incompatibility. It only becomes a problem if it stays unspoken.
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Fairness Calculator
Compare how you each perceive the division of day-to-day work.
- 8 min
- Both of you
- Account needed
Perceived shares are not measurements, and this will not produce a settlement. It will not score anyone as lazy.
Being built
4Boundary Builder
Turn a vague frustration into a boundary you can actually state.
Future Compatibility Map
Compare what you each picture five years out.
Before We Move In
The practical conversations that are much easier before the lease is signed.
Jealousy Explorer
Look at what the jealousy is actually pointing at.
Listed here so you can see where this is going. They are not clickable because they do not work yet.
Keeping track over time
Short, repeatable check-ins, so you notice a drift while it is still small enough to talk about.
Being built
3Relationship Checkpoint
A longer, structured sit-down, every few months.
What Changed?
Retake the couples test and see what moved.
Date Generator
Suggestions built from what you both said you actually enjoy.
Listed here so you can see where this is going. They are not clickable because they do not work yet.
Most of these are better after the couples test.
Not because we want you to do the long one first, but because several tools read your existing comparison and have more to say when there is one. The test is free, takes about twenty minutes each, and you answer it separately.
Between Us is not therapy, counselling or a clinical assessment, and no tool here can assess a relationship it cannot see. If you are using one of these to work out whether something that is happening to you is acceptable, please talk to a person — there is a list of places to start here.